In this video, we're debunking some common misconceptions about neurodivergent people and their social abilities and desires. There's a transcript below if you prefer to read or follow along.
Video Transcript: Stereotypes and Misconceptions
Welcome back to We are Social.
In the first two videos in this series, we discussed the importance of belongingness, what it means to be differently social, and the impacts that being differently social can have on our wellbeing.
In this video, I’ll be dispelling some unhelpful myths about what it means to be differently social.
There are a lot of misconceptions about neurodivergent people and our social abilities and needs, but we both need and have a right to have healthy relationships and feel like we belong just as much as anyone else.
Here are some stereotypes and misconceptions that we should debunk:
MYTH: Autistic people
Don’t care about socialising and aren’t interested in having friends.
Are incapable of having empathy for other people.
Self centred - Only ever want to talk about their own interests.
Are always shy or introverted.
TRUTH: Autistic people
Want, need and deserve friendship just like anyone else
Often have a great deal of empathy for others, sometimes an overwhelming amount.
Enjoy connecting with other people over shared interests.
Are sometimes shy, but sometimes very outgoing.
MYTH: ADHD people
Don’t really care about their friends enough to make plans or stay in touch.
Don’t respect or care about other people’s time.
Are super confident because they are so outgoing and friendly.
TRUTH: ADHD people
Have executive functioning differences that can make it difficult to stay in touch or make plans.
Often have time-blindness issues that make it very hard to manage their time.
May be vulnerable and sensitive to rejection, even if they seem loud and outgoing.
Are not always outgoing, loud, or overtly energetic.
The biggest misconception about neurodivergent people when it comes to being social, is that there’s something wrong, broken, or missing about us and the way we socialise.
That’s just not true.
While many neurodivergent people do socialise differently, this doesn’t mean that the way we communicate and connect is wrong.
We do care, very deeply. We often do want to be social and have a great deal of empathy for other people.
We have a lot to offer when it comes to **love, kindness, and loyalty.**And we deserve love, connection, and affection just like anyone else.
We certainly don't lack anything. We just experience the world differently and express things differently, like many other humans in the world.
And its important for us to realise this, because if we believe negative myths about us, this impacts our self-esteem and confidence in reaching out and connecting to others.
In our next section, we’ll be diving into four main causes of social difference, and what we can do to work with our brains.
True or false: At some point I have believed one of these misconceptions about myself